
Is it just me or does it seem like no topic is safe to discuss anymore?
Autumn officially began a few weeks ago and it’s my favorite time of year. I love the cool mornings, the changing leaves, and digging out sweaters and sweatshirts to hide the early arrival of my “winter layers.”
While it used to be a non-confrontational topic, even weather is now up for debate. Are those few days of unseasonal warm weather part of a bigger trend or a one-off event? Are wildfires man-made or mother nature resetting itself? Will the fashion police really tackle you to the sidewalk if you wear white after Labor Day?
Everything can be turned into a hot topic from whether to hold a high school dance to taking a vacation. It seems like everyone has differing views and there are more avenues than ever to share those views.
But at the end of the day, we need to remember that we have more in common than we have differences. And if you are wondering whether you should say something, whether you post something, whether you should share your viewpoint, answer this simple question: Are you acting out of love or out of righteousness?
We all love to be right. Personally, I don’t know anyone who enjoys being wrong. But changing your viewpoint or at least to be willing to listen and consider a different point of view is a step in the right direction of acting out of love.
This is nothing new. We should be acting out of love regularly but this is a great time to reach out to others even if you don’t share the same view on many issues.
Reach out to others in your community to see how they are doing or if they need anything.
Maybe it is a neighbor who can’t get to the grocery store for whatever reason. Your offer to pick up a gallon of milk and some bread may be what means that they have lunch the next day.
Perhaps it is an organization which has seen an uptick is usage and a decrease in volunteers. A couple hours a month of your timor could mean the difference between staying open and being forced to close.
Or maybe it is a friend who you’ve lost contact with or doesn’t have family to check with them on a regular basis. Don’t underestimate that a simple card, phone call or even an email can lift up their spirits.
There are plenty of opportunities to act out of love rather than righteousness. We just need to take that extra moment to be grateful for everything we have, to think before sharing a post or making a remark and to put ourselves in the other person’s shoes….even if they are white.

Building Connections in McCook Matters June in McCook will be abuzz with fun events including a Youth Summit, hosted by McCook Community Foundation Fund. Our young people in Youth Change Reaction will host the first Nebraska Community Foundation gathering for youth, which will bring youth from across Nebraska to McCook. While still in the planning stages, our students identified that McCook is great because of connections . Our young people easily recognize how critical this factor is to people attraction, to people retention, and to improve their futures. What I miss most about my high school classroom is connections with students and colleagues. In education, I taught first, second, and sometimes third generations in families. My husband, Greg, and I are not McCook natives, but I eventually knew who was related to whom and usually where the parent(s) were employed. Going to the grocery store meant greetings from students and sometimes their family members. I officially retired from my high school classroom nine years ago in May. When you retire, the most-asked question becomes “What do you do with your time?” I try to maintain those connections and make new ones by belonging. For the past seven years, Sharon Bohling and I have volunteered to help plan and organize Bison Days for our high school students, which took place February 10 and 11. It would not happen without the financial support of McCook Community Foundation Fund, plus the McCook High School, local businesses, and the talented people of Southwest Nebraska who say “yes” when one of us reaches out to ask for the donation of time and talent. I would venture that they allow us to be on the Bison Days’ committee because we both have connections within our community—it’s certainly not our computer savvy. Connections can also solve a problem. Recently, I signed up to help a local family in crisis. My morning plan revolved around delivering my donation at a designated drop-off place. That didn’t work out. Fortunately, I still work with youth in various capacities, so I know that Keri Wilkinson works for Camy Bradley. Keri was an organizer for the family fundraiser, so I walked in Camy’s office hoping to find Keri. She was not there, so Camy and I visited briefly. She knew someone (who I did not know) who could possibly give me further direction. Only in a town with connections are you able to interrupt someone’s business, have her reach out for you using her connections , and offer to keep the donations for me until Keri’s return. Another great example of connecting can be found over coffee. Dee Friehe and I are longtime teacher friends. During a chance meeting at the grocery store a few weeks ago, she shared how she was there following a funeral service and was gathering supplies to deliver supper to the grieving family that night. She also updated me on her group of adults who meet for coffee on Thursdays at Ember’s, which varies from 8-28 depending on the day. She recognized the need for adults moving to McCook or folks just wanting to get out to make connections . Dee’s husband, Mark, also hosts his own group of men who are new(er) to McCook. She regaled me with stories of their Christmas party and other special gatherings. Wanting to call McCook your home is solidified by building connections . Ronda Graff has written about McCook Connects which matches a McCook person with someone new to the community of similar interests. I earned my McCook Connects’ T-shirt welcoming a young family with children. We have since spent many hot summer days sitting on bleachers together cheering on our 4-H horse kids while they show their horses. Warning: I connected them with a “free” new-to-them horse. Be careful connecting with me or you’ll probably own a horse. You do not have to be retired to connect in this community. Volunteering is a surefire way to meet people. McCook has many civic groups looking for new faces. Attend a church here; we have many welcoming congregations. Go to ball games or school concerts, attend concerts in the park, learn a new skill through the college, show up at a Third Thursday event or invite the neighbors for a BBQ. Take your youngsters to story hour or Move and Groove at the library. Go watch an event at the Kiplinger Arena. You can even take it a step further: Make a friend or call a friend and invite him/her to go with you. It is human connection that keeps us healthy and happy. If McCook Community Foundation Fund can help you connect in some meaningful way, please reach out for advice or support. *** While Pam Wolford may be retired, she is just as busy serving on the McCook Community Foundation Fund committee and started a new Learn and Return Scholarship with MCFF, while stepping up to grandparent whenever the call comes in.