
If there has ever been a need to be adaptable, it is now.
When schools began closing down in mid-March, everyone - including myself - hoped that this pandemic would quickly pass and we’d be back to normal soon. As the weeks turned into months, there was hope that everything would correct itself over the summer. But as we head into fall, “normal” seems far off on the horizon and we are forced once again to learn how to adapt.
I don’t envy any school administrator who is dealing with this situation as the schools open this week and next. There is no good answer, no perfect answer.
As the saying goes, you can’t please everyone and those words have never been more true than right now as the circumstances change daily, even hourly.
At a minimum, we need to be gracious to those around us and to those making the hard decisions. None of us have all the information nor all the answers. So instead, we need to be flexible and ready to adapt to however we can make this work, whether it is returning to school, holding sporting events or even practicing a music lesson.
Adaptability and flexibility was never more evident that two weeks ago.
McCook High School seniors were fortunate to have an actual graduation ceremony two weeks ago, followed by prom the next evening. Both of those events very well could easily not have happened.
In the weeks and even the days leading up to the events, I was never 100 percent sure they would take place. But fortunately, the graduates were able to walk across the stage at the MCC events center. And then the following night, many of them returned to the event center in their finest duds for a couple hours of dancing and final event with their friends.
Both of those events were postponed from this past spring, but with careful planning and a lot of changes, they both were able to take place. At the end of the day, they happened because people adapted.
The graduation ceremony is usually packed with family and friends and even just members of the community who want to celebrate 12 years of hard work. Instead, graduates were limited to just eight tickets. Any ceremony with anyone in attendance was better than nothing.
As for prom, my husband and I have been prom sponsors for the past decade, spending a week with dozens of high school juniors and fellow teachers decorating for one night of dancing. This year, that week was condensed down to less than three hours and hundreds of decorations were traded for some tule and Christmas lights. With kids still on the dance floor at midnight, I’d call it a success.
As my mom often said, this too shall pass. She had a great way of putting things into perspective, particularly something that seemed difficult or perplexing at the moment. Ask yourself: Will this matter a year from now? Will this matter a week from now? Heck, will it even matter five minutes from now if you simply take a deep breath and put everything into perspective?
Yes, there are things changing in our lives that will have a long term impact from our kids’ education to the viability of our businesses. But in the end, the answer may lie in being able to adapt because change doesn’t have to be bad.
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On a side note, today is the last day in the office for McCook Community Foundation Funds’ summer hometown intern, Lexi Gross. She has been a joy to work with this summer and I’ve learned from her as much as I hope she has learned from me, the foundation and the community.
Lexi begins her senior year at Fort Hayes State University in Kansas next week, continuing to use audio and visual mediums to capture special events.
Over the last three months, she has helped tell McCook’s story through videos, articles and social media posts as part of MCFF’s “Make It Happen Here” series. If you haven’t seen these great videos, please visit the MCFF website, mccookfoundation.org or find them on Facebook.
But along with capturing the story McCook, the purpose of the internship was to show that our young people can make it happen here. They can have those careers here that they think can only happen in a large city. They can do those activities here that they think can only happen elsewhere. They can create that business here that they have a hard time even imagining.
Lexi was probably tired of hearing it but I hope she, along with all of our young people, knows that we want them to return to their hometown and build their lives here.
Yes, we want our young people to go out there and experience all the great things our country and the world has to offer, but remember that we always want you to return home.

Building Connections in McCook Matters June in McCook will be abuzz with fun events including a Youth Summit, hosted by McCook Community Foundation Fund. Our young people in Youth Change Reaction will host the first Nebraska Community Foundation gathering for youth, which will bring youth from across Nebraska to McCook. While still in the planning stages, our students identified that McCook is great because of connections . Our young people easily recognize how critical this factor is to people attraction, to people retention, and to improve their futures. What I miss most about my high school classroom is connections with students and colleagues. In education, I taught first, second, and sometimes third generations in families. My husband, Greg, and I are not McCook natives, but I eventually knew who was related to whom and usually where the parent(s) were employed. Going to the grocery store meant greetings from students and sometimes their family members. I officially retired from my high school classroom nine years ago in May. When you retire, the most-asked question becomes “What do you do with your time?” I try to maintain those connections and make new ones by belonging. For the past seven years, Sharon Bohling and I have volunteered to help plan and organize Bison Days for our high school students, which took place February 10 and 11. It would not happen without the financial support of McCook Community Foundation Fund, plus the McCook High School, local businesses, and the talented people of Southwest Nebraska who say “yes” when one of us reaches out to ask for the donation of time and talent. I would venture that they allow us to be on the Bison Days’ committee because we both have connections within our community—it’s certainly not our computer savvy. Connections can also solve a problem. Recently, I signed up to help a local family in crisis. My morning plan revolved around delivering my donation at a designated drop-off place. That didn’t work out. Fortunately, I still work with youth in various capacities, so I know that Keri Wilkinson works for Camy Bradley. Keri was an organizer for the family fundraiser, so I walked in Camy’s office hoping to find Keri. She was not there, so Camy and I visited briefly. She knew someone (who I did not know) who could possibly give me further direction. Only in a town with connections are you able to interrupt someone’s business, have her reach out for you using her connections , and offer to keep the donations for me until Keri’s return. Another great example of connecting can be found over coffee. Dee Friehe and I are longtime teacher friends. During a chance meeting at the grocery store a few weeks ago, she shared how she was there following a funeral service and was gathering supplies to deliver supper to the grieving family that night. She also updated me on her group of adults who meet for coffee on Thursdays at Ember’s, which varies from 8-28 depending on the day. She recognized the need for adults moving to McCook or folks just wanting to get out to make connections . Dee’s husband, Mark, also hosts his own group of men who are new(er) to McCook. She regaled me with stories of their Christmas party and other special gatherings. Wanting to call McCook your home is solidified by building connections . Ronda Graff has written about McCook Connects which matches a McCook person with someone new to the community of similar interests. I earned my McCook Connects’ T-shirt welcoming a young family with children. We have since spent many hot summer days sitting on bleachers together cheering on our 4-H horse kids while they show their horses. Warning: I connected them with a “free” new-to-them horse. Be careful connecting with me or you’ll probably own a horse. You do not have to be retired to connect in this community. Volunteering is a surefire way to meet people. McCook has many civic groups looking for new faces. Attend a church here; we have many welcoming congregations. Go to ball games or school concerts, attend concerts in the park, learn a new skill through the college, show up at a Third Thursday event or invite the neighbors for a BBQ. Take your youngsters to story hour or Move and Groove at the library. Go watch an event at the Kiplinger Arena. You can even take it a step further: Make a friend or call a friend and invite him/her to go with you. It is human connection that keeps us healthy and happy. If McCook Community Foundation Fund can help you connect in some meaningful way, please reach out for advice or support. *** While Pam Wolford may be retired, she is just as busy serving on the McCook Community Foundation Fund committee and started a new Learn and Return Scholarship with MCFF, while stepping up to grandparent whenever the call comes in.