I’m not a huge fan of comedian Steven Wright, but I do appreciate his humor. Several years ago my wife, Linda, and I had the pleasure of attending a Steven Wright show, who is most famous for his one-liners. The line which most resonated with me was: “I want to live forever – so far, so good.”
Now we all know that we don’t physically live forever – even Steven Wright. However, I think maybe Steven is on to something here as I contemplate the lives of three friends of mine and my Mom who passed away within the last year – Andy Anderson, Cloyd Clark, Tor Olson and Dolores Graff. What they accomplished during their time on earth and the positive impact they had on our community will live well beyond their physical existence.  
We are all gifted with certain talents or assets. What made Andy, Cloyd, Tor and Dolores so special was they used their talents and resources to benefit others more than themselves. 
As William Shakespeare so eloquently said, “The meaning of life is finding your gift. The purpose of life is to give it away.”
My dad, Peter Graff, lived his life knowing that what he did for himself would die with him, but that what he did for others would live on long after he was gone.
Now seven years after his passing, the lives of our friends and neighbors in Southwest Nebraska are better because Peter Graff called McCook home. And years from now, the lives of Andy, Cloyd, Tor and Dolores will have the same profound effect on our community.
So, how can we best show our appreciation for those who came before us? For those who invested so heavily in our community, whether that be with their time, talent or treasures?  
To start with, we can show our gratitude by how we invest our own time, our own talent and our own treasures into Southwest Nebraska. Consider giving back to your community, whether that be through volunteer efforts, financial donations or just showing up. 
For example, each of us involved with the McCook Community Foundation Fund has made a pledge – the investments made by those who came before us will continue to prosper on our watch, whether those investments are an idea, an asset or just their spirit of giving.
Remember that giving not only helps others, but is good for our soul. H. Jackson Brown Jr. (the author, not the musician) wrote, “Remember that the happiest people are not those getting more, but those giving more.” 
Thank you Andy, Cloyd, Tor and Mom for the gifts of your lives - your spirits are still alive and well in Southwest Nebraska. You leave legacies of love and community that continue to live deeply in those of us touched in some manner by your lives. We will do our best to honor each of you in everything we do for our community.
As Mae West once said, “You only live once, but if you do it right, once is enough.” And you all did it so right.
By Ronda Graff October 24, 2025
McCook's last hometown bakery closed this past week, leaving a void not just for donuts but for connections.
By Ronda Graff October 16, 2025
Many organizations and businesses in McCook offer the opportunity to recycle, reuse and repair items that may just end up in the trash.
By Ronda Graff October 13, 2025
Organizer for Buffalo Commons Storytelling Festival and former librarian named Oct 2025 volunteer of the month.
By Ronda Graff October 10, 2025
McCook's Third Thursdays were created to get businesses and organizations involved and designed to create life-long memories for the community.
By Ronda Graff October 2, 2025
Long-time community advocate Barb Ostrum received the Sept 2025 McCook Volunteer of the Month award.
By Peggy Been October 1, 2025
We need to celebrate our young people while they are here and encourage them to return.
By Ronda Graff September 29, 2025
While some like myself appreciate a rainy day, others dread them for a variety of reasons. We need to be empathetic as interact with others.
By Ronda Graff September 23, 2025
MCFF Fall Grant Deadline is Oct. 1. Complete list of former recipients on MCFF website
By Ronda Graff September 19, 2025
With so much going, it is time for a “This, That and the Other Thing” column, where we will cover several topics, not very deeply but hopefully with a sense of humor as we clean up and prepare for a busy week in McCook. *** McCook again made state and national news this week for ice. This time, it was in the form of hail that pounded the community for hours upon hours. Conversations this week begin with “where were you….?” or “how many windows did you lose?” And while they may be legitimate and are offering their services, it is like vultures with all the roofing repair and dent removal businesses which have descended upon McCook following the storm. As city officials noted, do your due diligence with any company doing repairs for you and follow the old adage, which is old and still around because it’s true: If something seems to be too good to be true, it probably is. And one last note on the storm, we need to be careful what we ask for. As storm after storm approaches McCook and then splits in two to go around the town, we finally got one to roll right over us. The storm liked McCook so much it slowed down and just there. I was in Lincoln during the storm and trying to determine when I would drive home. I thought the weather app had frozen or the radar was broken because every time I looked, the storm was still sitting over McCook, doing its damage. I guess we can be thankful the next time a storm seemingly just goes around us. *** We are in the thick of McCook’s Heritage Days celebration. Congratulations to all the Heritage Days Royalty, which was announced at the MNB Bank Mixer this week. A special shout-out to Bill Donze, better known as Mr. Bill and his wife, Kathy, who were honored as royalty for their impact in McCook. As many know, Mr. Bill is fighting cancer and the prognosis isn’t good. The chances of him selling snow-cones and candy out of his van next summer near the McCook Aquatic Center are not good. One judge of his impact was the response to my column about Mr. Bill a few months ago. The post was shared thousands of times, viewed nearly 70,000 times with just as many comments by people sharing their fond memories of Mr. Bill. So when you see Mr. Bill riding down Norris in the convertible this weekend in the Heritage Days parade, send extra prayers and well-wishes to the man who has brought so much joy to so many kids - and adults too - over the years. *** Continuing on the Heritage Days theme, I would be remiss if I didn’t mention that the McCook Rotary Club is tossing all egos and formality out the window this weekend. As the president of the McCook Rotary Club, I invite everyone to at least watch, if not participate, in the Rotary’s first inflatable costume relay race on Saturday as part of the festivities in Norris Park. These are those giant, blow-up costumes you usually see around Halloween. The first costumes were usually T-Rexes but now there is everything imaginable available as a design. With the idea for the race originally conceived by Melanie Goodenberger, she has purchased everything from corn on the cob to a cowboy riding a chicken. This is a fund-raiser for the Rotary Club with a cost of just $20 for a team of four to participate in the relay race. But it is also a chance to giggle, perhaps make a fool of yourself and just have fun. Come to the park Saturday afternoon for the Wiener Dog races and stay for the Rotary Relay races. While the dogs will already be close to the ground, the relay race participants will likely just end up on the ground. *** With so much going on in McCook this week, I debated whether there should be another activity the next week but the response has already been great for the Lied’s Arts Across Nebraska’s next production in McCook. Hosted by the McCook Creative District, the Omaha Street Percussion ensemble will perform at the Fox Theater on Wednesday, Sept. 24. There is a matinee showing at 10:30 a.m. but I will be up-front…we are testing the capacity of the Fox with every seat already claimed with students. If that is the only show you can make, please come and we’ll find you a seat but it may be those up in the rafters. Otherwise, please plan to attend the 7 p.m. show on Sept. 24. And even better, there is no cost thanks to the Kimmel Foundation and the Friends of the Lied. This is a busy week and a busy weekend but this is a great opportunity to sit back and enjoy a fun, entertaining evening of live music.
By Ronda Graff September 12, 2025
Most likely, we aren't going to be good at something at the start. But that shouldn't stop us from trying.