I’m not a huge fan of comedian Steven Wright, but I do appreciate his humor. Several years ago my wife, Linda, and I had the pleasure of attending a Steven Wright show, who is most famous for his one-liners. The line which most resonated with me was: “I want to live forever – so far, so good.”
Now we all know that we don’t physically live forever – even Steven Wright. However, I think maybe Steven is on to something here as I contemplate the lives of three friends of mine and my Mom who passed away within the last year – Andy Anderson, Cloyd Clark, Tor Olson and Dolores Graff. What they accomplished during their time on earth and the positive impact they had on our community will live well beyond their physical existence.
We are all gifted with certain talents or assets. What made Andy, Cloyd, Tor and Dolores so special was they used their talents and resources to benefit others more than themselves.
As William Shakespeare so eloquently said, “The meaning of life is finding your gift. The purpose of life is to give it away.”
My dad, Peter Graff, lived his life knowing that what he did for himself would die with him, but that what he did for others would live on long after he was gone.
Now seven years after his passing, the lives of our friends and neighbors in Southwest Nebraska are better because Peter Graff called McCook home. And years from now, the lives of Andy, Cloyd, Tor and Dolores will have the same profound effect on our community.
So, how can we best show our appreciation for those who came before us? For those who invested so heavily in our community, whether that be with their time, talent or treasures?
To start with, we can show our gratitude by how we invest our own time, our own talent and our own treasures into Southwest Nebraska. Consider giving back to your community, whether that be through volunteer efforts, financial donations or just showing up.
For example, each of us involved with the McCook Community Foundation Fund has made a pledge – the investments made by those who came before us will continue to prosper on our watch, whether those investments are an idea, an asset or just their spirit of giving.
Remember that giving not only helps others, but is good for our soul. H. Jackson Brown Jr. (the author, not the musician) wrote, “Remember that the happiest people are not those getting more, but those giving more.”
Thank you Andy, Cloyd, Tor and Mom for the gifts of your lives - your spirits are still alive and well in Southwest Nebraska. You leave legacies of love and community that continue to live deeply in those of us touched in some manner by your lives. We will do our best to honor each of you in everything we do for our community.
As Mae West once said, “You only live once, but if you do it right, once is enough.” And you all did it so right.

Building Connections in McCook Matters June in McCook will be abuzz with fun events including a Youth Summit, hosted by McCook Community Foundation Fund. Our young people in Youth Change Reaction will host the first Nebraska Community Foundation gathering for youth, which will bring youth from across Nebraska to McCook. While still in the planning stages, our students identified that McCook is great because of connections . Our young people easily recognize how critical this factor is to people attraction, to people retention, and to improve their futures. What I miss most about my high school classroom is connections with students and colleagues. In education, I taught first, second, and sometimes third generations in families. My husband, Greg, and I are not McCook natives, but I eventually knew who was related to whom and usually where the parent(s) were employed. Going to the grocery store meant greetings from students and sometimes their family members. I officially retired from my high school classroom nine years ago in May. When you retire, the most-asked question becomes “What do you do with your time?” I try to maintain those connections and make new ones by belonging. For the past seven years, Sharon Bohling and I have volunteered to help plan and organize Bison Days for our high school students, which took place February 10 and 11. It would not happen without the financial support of McCook Community Foundation Fund, plus the McCook High School, local businesses, and the talented people of Southwest Nebraska who say “yes” when one of us reaches out to ask for the donation of time and talent. I would venture that they allow us to be on the Bison Days’ committee because we both have connections within our community—it’s certainly not our computer savvy. Connections can also solve a problem. Recently, I signed up to help a local family in crisis. My morning plan revolved around delivering my donation at a designated drop-off place. That didn’t work out. Fortunately, I still work with youth in various capacities, so I know that Keri Wilkinson works for Camy Bradley. Keri was an organizer for the family fundraiser, so I walked in Camy’s office hoping to find Keri. She was not there, so Camy and I visited briefly. She knew someone (who I did not know) who could possibly give me further direction. Only in a town with connections are you able to interrupt someone’s business, have her reach out for you using her connections , and offer to keep the donations for me until Keri’s return. Another great example of connecting can be found over coffee. Dee Friehe and I are longtime teacher friends. During a chance meeting at the grocery store a few weeks ago, she shared how she was there following a funeral service and was gathering supplies to deliver supper to the grieving family that night. She also updated me on her group of adults who meet for coffee on Thursdays at Ember’s, which varies from 8-28 depending on the day. She recognized the need for adults moving to McCook or folks just wanting to get out to make connections . Dee’s husband, Mark, also hosts his own group of men who are new(er) to McCook. She regaled me with stories of their Christmas party and other special gatherings. Wanting to call McCook your home is solidified by building connections . Ronda Graff has written about McCook Connects which matches a McCook person with someone new to the community of similar interests. I earned my McCook Connects’ T-shirt welcoming a young family with children. We have since spent many hot summer days sitting on bleachers together cheering on our 4-H horse kids while they show their horses. Warning: I connected them with a “free” new-to-them horse. Be careful connecting with me or you’ll probably own a horse. You do not have to be retired to connect in this community. Volunteering is a surefire way to meet people. McCook has many civic groups looking for new faces. Attend a church here; we have many welcoming congregations. Go to ball games or school concerts, attend concerts in the park, learn a new skill through the college, show up at a Third Thursday event or invite the neighbors for a BBQ. Take your youngsters to story hour or Move and Groove at the library. Go watch an event at the Kiplinger Arena. You can even take it a step further: Make a friend or call a friend and invite him/her to go with you. It is human connection that keeps us healthy and happy. If McCook Community Foundation Fund can help you connect in some meaningful way, please reach out for advice or support. *** While Pam Wolford may be retired, she is just as busy serving on the McCook Community Foundation Fund committee and started a new Learn and Return Scholarship with MCFF, while stepping up to grandparent whenever the call comes in.