Earlier this week, I shared a post on social media which I think is even more relevant today after the events of Jan. 6 in both Washington D.C. and across the country..
“Do not wait for leaders; do it alone, person to person. Today.” - Mother Teresa
Now, normally, we don’t advocate to do things alone. After all, the saying is “if you want to go fast, go alone; if you want to go far, go together.”
But following Mother Teresa’s teachings, “alone” in this case means not waiting on the “powers that be” to make things better. Instead, alone means that change happens on a personal level.
Mother Teressa believed that one of the most important things in a person’s life was respect and to be heard. The reason she was so influential was because she listened intently to whoever she was talking to, whether it was a world leader or a beggar on the street. Both were equally important in the world.
In reality, it’s a very simple concept: respecting and listening to one another, each and every one of us. It is making every person’s voice heard, every person’s opinion considered, every person’s thoughts valued.
How does that happen?
It’s having a cup of coffee with someone and having that tough conversation. It’s having a civil discussion over dinner with someone you may not agree with. It is taking the time to say things face-to-face, where there can be a civil discourse, rather than one-sided diatribes.
We begin to have civil conversations with one another, even those we don’t agree with. I believe Civic Saturdays are important, where we gather to have civil conversations to nurture a shared purpose. So far, my Civic Saturday experience has only spread as far as my dining room table with my own children, but I hope to bring it to the entire community as a way to engage friends and strangers in a common goal - civic engagement.
We also need to show respect for one another. While social media may keep us connected, it is also terribly dividing. People say things online that they would never - or at least I hope they would never - say in person. Maybe we should reinstitute another old saying, “If you can’t say anything nice, don’t say anything at all.”
Moving forward, we do not have to be what we saw in D.C. We can be - and we are - better than that if we are willing to work together.
While we need government for certain aspects of our lives, we cannot wait on them to solve all our problems. As individuals, we need to work together to make the change we want to see happen. Do you want to see a new project happen? Then start the conversation. Do you want to see improvements at your school? Then start the conversation. Do you want to see changes in your community? Then start the conversation.
We need to simply remember that everyone wants what is best for them, for their families and for their communities. We just have different ideas about how to get there. It is that middle ground between the ideas that we need to come together to find.
And that is why the conversations are so important. Start with one-on-one conversations. Soon you’ll discover that you have more in common than you have differences. Because by working together, we can make McCook- and our entire country - an even better place to call home.
Jeremy Shaw named April 2025 McCook Volunteer of the Month
While the Bison Alumni Newsletter will still be available digitally, a new printed service is available.
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Mark Friehe named March McCook Volunteer of the Month.
Although the Bodensteiners no longer live in Southwest Nebraska, they are still connected and wanted to see if prosper and thrive.
From long-term projects to weekly events, you cannot say "there is nothing to do" or "nothing is happening."
With the goal of reaching 200 subscriptions, the Bison Alumni Newsletter is launching a subscription service.
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McCook's youth survey shows that young people now value safety in their community, something McCook provides.
Building Connections in McCook Matters June in McCook will be abuzz with fun events including a Youth Summit, hosted by McCook Community Foundation Fund. Our young people in Youth Change Reaction will host the first Nebraska Community Foundation gathering for youth, which will bring youth from across Nebraska to McCook. While still in the planning stages, our students identified that McCook is great because of connections . Our young people easily recognize how critical this factor is to people attraction, to people retention, and to improve their futures. What I miss most about my high school classroom is connections with students and colleagues. In education, I taught first, second, and sometimes third generations in families. My husband, Greg, and I are not McCook natives, but I eventually knew who was related to whom and usually where the parent(s) were employed. Going to the grocery store meant greetings from students and sometimes their family members. I officially retired from my high school classroom nine years ago in May. When you retire, the most-asked question becomes “What do you do with your time?” I try to maintain those connections and make new ones by belonging. For the past seven years, Sharon Bohling and I have volunteered to help plan and organize Bison Days for our high school students, which took place February 10 and 11. It would not happen without the financial support of McCook Community Foundation Fund, plus the McCook High School, local businesses, and the talented people of Southwest Nebraska who say “yes” when one of us reaches out to ask for the donation of time and talent. I would venture that they allow us to be on the Bison Days’ committee because we both have connections within our community—it’s certainly not our computer savvy. Connections can also solve a problem. Recently, I signed up to help a local family in crisis. My morning plan revolved around delivering my donation at a designated drop-off place. That didn’t work out. Fortunately, I still work with youth in various capacities, so I know that Keri Wilkinson works for Camy Bradley. Keri was an organizer for the family fundraiser, so I walked in Camy’s office hoping to find Keri. She was not there, so Camy and I visited briefly. She knew someone (who I did not know) who could possibly give me further direction. Only in a town with connections are you able to interrupt someone’s business, have her reach out for you using her connections , and offer to keep the donations for me until Keri’s return. Another great example of connecting can be found over coffee. Dee Friehe and I are longtime teacher friends. During a chance meeting at the grocery store a few weeks ago, she shared how she was there following a funeral service and was gathering supplies to deliver supper to the grieving family that night. She also updated me on her group of adults who meet for coffee on Thursdays at Ember’s, which varies from 8-28 depending on the day. She recognized the need for adults moving to McCook or folks just wanting to get out to make connections . Dee’s husband, Mark, also hosts his own group of men who are new(er) to McCook. She regaled me with stories of their Christmas party and other special gatherings. Wanting to call McCook your home is solidified by building connections . Ronda Graff has written about McCook Connects which matches a McCook person with someone new to the community of similar interests. I earned my McCook Connects’ T-shirt welcoming a young family with children. We have since spent many hot summer days sitting on bleachers together cheering on our 4-H horse kids while they show their horses. Warning: I connected them with a “free” new-to-them horse. Be careful connecting with me or you’ll probably own a horse. You do not have to be retired to connect in this community. Volunteering is a surefire way to meet people. McCook has many civic groups looking for new faces. Attend a church here; we have many welcoming congregations. Go to ball games or school concerts, attend concerts in the park, learn a new skill through the college, show up at a Third Thursday event or invite the neighbors for a BBQ. Take your youngsters to story hour or Move and Groove at the library. Go watch an event at the Kiplinger Arena. You can even take it a step further: Make a friend or call a friend and invite him/her to go with you. It is human connection that keeps us healthy and happy. If McCook Community Foundation Fund can help you connect in some meaningful way, please reach out for advice or support. *** While Pam Wolford may be retired, she is just as busy serving on the McCook Community Foundation Fund committee and started a new Learn and Return Scholarship with MCFF, while stepping up to grandparent whenever the call comes in.
