Celebrating Last Times and First Times


I was sitting in the Dundy County High School gym, watching the St. Patrick boys Junior High basketball game last week. 

With the seconds ticking away on the time clock, I thought about how many games I have been to in this gym and countless other auditoriums as my seven children have moved through the school system. As my last two kids will be high school swimmers rather than basketball players, I will be spending most of my time at swimming pools rather than gymnasiums. 

The basketball season is coming to a close and this could very likely be the last time I take in a game in this gym, at least watching my own children play. And my son is playing in his final game at St. Patrick’s today after 23 years of my kids as a Knight or Lady Knight.

Most of the time, you never know when something is “the last time.” The “last time” you saw someone or the “last time” you were able to do something.

Usually, it is only when you reflect back on the past do you realize the last time you played t-ball, the last time you saw your mom, the last time you walked out of your family home. 

That remembrance is usually filled with nostalgia, sometimes regret and occasionally a longing for how it used to be.

But rather than looking at an ending as negative, we need to recognize it as the beginning of something new, a chance to try something different, or another phase in our life. 

I have had many “lasts” recently as my kids grow up and move out of the house. The last time they come home from college over summer break. The last time all of them are not split among houses over the holidays because of significant others. The last time all my boys are not taller than me. (I’ve still got the girls beat.)

But this also means that means that we’ll be having many firsts. Like the first wedding for one of our children. Like our first grandchild. Like our first child going off our cellular bill and insurance package. We’ll see what happens first but I’m not holding out hope for a lower cell payment.

Ultimately, all of these firsts simply mean we are moving into a new phase of our lives, phases of the unknown but phases which can be exciting and bring new opportunities. I’ve truly enjoyed the countless hours running the clock at my kids’ games and standing along the back wall of the gym during Christmas programs. But I am also looking forward to what the future holds as we move from “last time” to “first time.”


We have also seen a “last time” when it comes to the fitness community.

The Republican River Fitness Series is coming to an end after seven years of getting people off the couch and onto their feet for 5Ks, triathlons and adventure races. With tremendous support from Community Hospital, people were able to get active, to explore our community by foot (and bikes) and to meet others on their health journey.

Some of the races will likely continue on their own like the Culbertson Fourth of July Freedom Run and the Heritage Days 5K, along with a race to support McCook’s cross country team. 

But the series has wrapped up (past participants should be on the lookout for a special invitation soon) and this is an opportunity to celebrate what was accomplished over the past few years. 

We’ve had the privilege of honoring some who have passed, including Randy Andrews and Michelle Walters, with their own race. We’ve raised funds to help build the McCook Dog Park and to support youth sports at the YMCA and Knights of Columbus.

We have had a great time exploring a variety of spaces across our area, from the scrambling across the sandbars in the Republican River by Trenton to praying that the splash pad didn’t come on in the dark during the Color Race in Cambridge. 

And we have seen people transform themselves, whether it was physically by losing weight or mentally by running a distance they didn’t think was possible. 

The fitness series has come to an end but people will run, bike and swim - not for the last time but for many, it will be for the first time and that is something to celebrate.

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By Ronda Graff July 8, 2025
We are entering the holiday season. Not the typical cold, wintery time of year but the hot, sultry Fourth of July festivities. As part of this holiday, there are many upcoming celebrations to mark the United State’s birthday. Many have likely seen in the news and on social media that Kearney had to cancel its Freedom Festival, due to a lack of volunteers. This led to some confusion that McCook’s event was not happening July 3, which is understandable since they literally have the same name. But McCook’s event is taking place (may have already taken place by the time you read this) at the Red Willow County Fairgrounds. This event and others like it happen because several things need to be in place including people, businesses and organizations providing the funding needed to make it a reality. But perhaps more importantly, people, businesses and organizations step up to help by volunteering their time. If you don’t have people to plan and organize, the events can’t happen. If you don’t have friends and families willing to give of their time working, these events can’t happen. If you don’t have volunteers who see the value in spending an evening with others, these events won’t happen. And as we have seen, the reality is not that far away in Kearney. But we have proven that residents in McCook and Southwest Nebraska are willing to step up and help and make these projects happen, most recently this past weekend with the Tour de Nebraska (TDN) bike ride, the McCook Chamber’s Bash on the Bricks and Wagner’s Cruise Night. These events took dozens - if not hundreds - of volunteers giving hundreds of hours to make it happen. I was most involved with the Tour de Nebraska, the five-day bicycle ride that had more than 300 riders plus support staff in McCook for two days and nights. As the last of the bike riders headed north to the finish at Curtis on Sunday morning, what was left behind was a sense of joy by those who played a role in the event. There were numerous roles for the volunteers involved in TDN, from visiting businesses to let them know about the increased foot traffic to unloading luggage for the riders. There were the Community Hospital employees who staffed the welcome tent as the riders rolled into town. While the hill up to the staging area by McCook Community College event center is not normally that daunting, it proves to be a challenge after riding 60 miles from Cambridge in 90-degree weather. Nearly everyone pulled up the tent, exasperated over the hill, but was then overjoyed as a hospital employee draped an ice-soaked towel around their neck. There were literally sighs of relief and cries of joy due to this small gesture. Perhaps the biggest undertaking was the van shuttle system to get riders around the community. While the cyclists could have walked or ridden their bikes, it is hard to balance a load of laundry on your handlebars or to get across town from the movie theater late at night. Instead, for two days, nearly two dozen volunteer shuttle drivers drove a route around McCook, picking up and dropping off riders at local businesses. When it was all said and done, the shuttle drivers commented on how quickly their time went and how much fun they had. Some asked to take additional shifts, while others brought along a family member to be part of the joy of meeting others and to share the pride they have in their community. The drivers did receive a t-shirt for their time, but if you ask them, I’m betting that they will say they received more than they gave. Person after person who volunteered had stories from the two-day event, such as how friendly everyone was, how they enjoyed meeting people from across the U.S. and from other countries, and how they loved sharing what they love about their community. By volunteering, they came into contact with people they might not normally meet. There was a group from Denver who took the train from McCook after celebrating a bachelor party on the bike ride. There was the weatherman from Des Moines, who may have offered up his autograph. And there were the former McCook-residents who did the ride because it was in their hometown. This sense of joy and pride is not unique to this event. In fact, it is usually true of almost everyone who steps up to volunteer. Ultimately, you may give of your time and your talent and your treasure but usually you receive much more back in return. And if we all take that to heart and give back to our community by volunteering, we will all end up with so much more in return because it is better to give than to receive.
By Matt Sehnert June 26, 2025
It isn’t easy to talk about money but with the transfer of wealth that will happen between the generations over the next few decades, it is something that needs to be a topic of conversation. As part of that discussion, pause for a moment and try to guess how much money will transfer to the next generation between 2020 and 2030, just in Red Willow County. And to make it a little easier, let’s make it multiple choice: $50 million $200 million $608 million I’ll give you the correct answer in just a moment, but for now consider how we know this information. The Nebraska Community Foundation has studied this Transfer of Wealth in every county across the state for decades. This research has inspired the “Five to Thrive” campaign, which encourages us all to consider how just 5% of our wealth could help our communities thrive for generations to come. As Baby Boomers pass on their legacy, the question isn’t if their wealth will transfer — but where. The default answer is typically “to our kids” or “to my family.” And that’s understandable. But here’s a deeper question: Should all of it go to our kids and to our family? Is this even a good idea? Are they prepared for the changes that could happen with the inheritance? Has a conversation been had about what the parents would like to see happen? Would it be wise — or meaningful — to consider leaving just a portion for the greater good? While you may think “I have to leave it all to my family,” there are options. The McCook Community Foundation Fund is here to help you explore what planned giving might look like for you, for your kids and your family. And while MCFF may be part of the conversation, it is not about leaving a gift to the foundation but rather to any cause that reflects your values. Whether you’re passionate about education, youth, the arts, rural vitality, or helping those in need, MCFF can help you connect your resources to your passions. We also offer tools to help you maximize tax savings and structure your giving in ways that are smart and personal. Whether you’re wealthy or working hard to get by, 5% is 5% and it all makes an impact. Which brings us to the answer about the transfer of wealth in Red Willow County over this decade. It will be more than $608 million that will transfer from one generation to the next. And if that next generation doesn’t live in Red Willow County or Southwest Nebraska, then those dollars leave the community, possibly forever. If just 5% of that $608 million were left for local causes, Red Willow County would have $30 million to strengthen our future — keeping rural Nebraska a place where our kids and grandkids can thrive. As Kathy Calvin said, “Giving is not just about making a donation. It is about making a difference.” There are so many possibilities to explore, so many ways to make a difference today and so many ways to leave your legacy. There’s no pressure. Just a conversation. When you're ready, reach out to me directly, to the McCook Community Foundation Fund, or — if you'd prefer more privacy — to the Nebraska Community Foundation. We are blessed in our community and we are in this together to make McCook and southwest Nebraska an even better place to call home. *** As the chairman of the McCook Community Foundation Fund, Matt Sehnert is passionate about making his hometown better for his family, friends and neighbors. Contact him at mwsehnert@gmail.com. Or reach out to MCFF at mcffund@gmail.com or Todd Mekelburg with the Nebraska Community Foundation at tmekelburg@nebcommfound.org.
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