On the Saturday of McCook’s Heritage Days, I woke up at 7 a.m., quickly threw on some running clothes and dashed out the door, arriving at the starting line just a few minutes before Coach Sughroue gave the official start to the 5K race. It was a beautiful morning for a run - with a lot of walking - and was made even more perfect because I wasn’t in charge. 

Prior to this year, my day would have looked a lot different. For starters, the day would have begun the night before by marking the course with arrows and signs so the runners and walkers know where to go. The next morning, I would have been up before the sun, arriving at the start line in the dark with a headlamp for lighting to further set up for the road race. 

Instead, Autumn Miller at Anytime Fitness had reached out a few months prior about taking over the race, which has benefitted the McCook High School Cross Country team for years. I didn’t know what changes she would make, but to me it was more important that the race continue since I believe it is an asset for the community and a great way to start the Saturday of Heritage Days. 

And she did a great job pulling the race together, making changes she wanted to see happen like simplifying the registration and making changes that she had to do like making a new route. I am confident that the race will continue, it will likely grow in numbers and the high school cross country runners will always grumble about getting up early on a Saturday to stand on a corner directing traffic.

It is this transition that needs to happen if we want to see our community grow and thrive. We need to be willing to step aside and let others take over. At a minimum, we need to be willing to let others get involved and make their mark on an event or in an organization. 

The event or the project, the program or the organization may not look like what you envisioned, but we must be willing to let others take over and get involved. 

It takes letting go of control. It means releasing your ego. It involves stepping aside. 

Am I perfect at this? By no means because it is a control issue. But I have been fortunate that others welcomed me and let my ideas be heard and boy, do I have ideas. Anyone who works with me knows that I think all of my ideas are golden. Yes, I know all my ideas are not golden but I can say they are, especially if I want to be McCook’s next Cloyd Clark, who if you didn’t know him liked to come up with ideas and get others to do them. I’ve only mastered coming up with ideas and then usually have to do them myself. 

And that is what I want to do for others: get them involved. This means listening to them and putting their ideas into action. All of that requires work and being intentional and perhaps hardest of all - setting aside our egos.

I showed up at the Heritage Days race for several reasons, admittedly one was just to see how the race went and if there was a good turn-out - which there was. I wanted to be there in case there were any questions - which there weren’t. And I wanted to be there to show support - which I am glad I did. 

And that last step is maybe one of the most important steps involved: showing up. 

All too freque ntly, when our time managing an organization or volunteering for a project is over, we quit paying attention to what the group is doing or we stop attending the event. Our presence is just as important - perhaps even more vital - after our time is over because of the knowledge we know, the experience we bring to those who are just trying to figure things out. This doesn’t mean looming over and imposing prior thoughts and ideas but rather just being available to bounce ideas off and provide history of things that worked and didn’t work so well in the past. 

If we want our hometowns to grow and thrive, we need our young people to get involved in the community, so they can take over. We need our newcomers to know that their new ideas are welcomed and can be put into action. We need to be open to current residents with a good, thought-out plan and be willing to help make it happen. And finally, we need to show up and support those who are working to make our hometowns even better place to call home.

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With so much going, it is time for a “This, That and the Other Thing” column, where we will cover several topics, not very deeply but hopefully with a sense of humor as we clean up and prepare for a busy week in McCook. *** McCook again made state and national news this week for ice. This time, it was in the form of hail that pounded the community for hours upon hours. Conversations this week begin with “where were you….?” or “how many windows did you lose?” And while they may be legitimate and are offering their services, it is like vultures with all the roofing repair and dent removal businesses which have descended upon McCook following the storm. As city officials noted, do your due diligence with any company doing repairs for you and follow the old adage, which is old and still around because it’s true: If something seems to be too good to be true, it probably is. And one last note on the storm, we need to be careful what we ask for. As storm after storm approaches McCook and then splits in two to go around the town, we finally got one to roll right over us. The storm liked McCook so much it slowed down and just there. I was in Lincoln during the storm and trying to determine when I would drive home. I thought the weather app had frozen or the radar was broken because every time I looked, the storm was still sitting over McCook, doing its damage. I guess we can be thankful the next time a storm seemingly just goes around us. *** We are in the thick of McCook’s Heritage Days celebration. Congratulations to all the Heritage Days Royalty, which was announced at the MNB Bank Mixer this week. A special shout-out to Bill Donze, better known as Mr. Bill and his wife, Kathy, who were honored as royalty for their impact in McCook. As many know, Mr. Bill is fighting cancer and the prognosis isn’t good. The chances of him selling snow-cones and candy out of his van next summer near the McCook Aquatic Center are not good. One judge of his impact was the response to my column about Mr. Bill a few months ago. The post was shared thousands of times, viewed nearly 70,000 times with just as many comments by people sharing their fond memories of Mr. Bill. So when you see Mr. Bill riding down Norris in the convertible this weekend in the Heritage Days parade, send extra prayers and well-wishes to the man who has brought so much joy to so many kids - and adults too - over the years. *** Continuing on the Heritage Days theme, I would be remiss if I didn’t mention that the McCook Rotary Club is tossing all egos and formality out the window this weekend. As the president of the McCook Rotary Club, I invite everyone to at least watch, if not participate, in the Rotary’s first inflatable costume relay race on Saturday as part of the festivities in Norris Park. These are those giant, blow-up costumes you usually see around Halloween. The first costumes were usually T-Rexes but now there is everything imaginable available as a design. With the idea for the race originally conceived by Melanie Goodenberger, she has purchased everything from corn on the cob to a cowboy riding a chicken. This is a fund-raiser for the Rotary Club with a cost of just $20 for a team of four to participate in the relay race. But it is also a chance to giggle, perhaps make a fool of yourself and just have fun. Come to the park Saturday afternoon for the Wiener Dog races and stay for the Rotary Relay races. While the dogs will already be close to the ground, the relay race participants will likely just end up on the ground. *** With so much going on in McCook this week, I debated whether there should be another activity the next week but the response has already been great for the Lied’s Arts Across Nebraska’s next production in McCook. Hosted by the McCook Creative District, the Omaha Street Percussion ensemble will perform at the Fox Theater on Wednesday, Sept. 24. There is a matinee showing at 10:30 a.m. but I will be up-front…we are testing the capacity of the Fox with every seat already claimed with students. If that is the only show you can make, please come and we’ll find you a seat but it may be those up in the rafters. Otherwise, please plan to attend the 7 p.m. show on Sept. 24. And even better, there is no cost thanks to the Kimmel Foundation and the Friends of the Lied. This is a busy week and a busy weekend but this is a great opportunity to sit back and enjoy a fun, entertaining evening of live music.
By Ronda Graff September 12, 2025
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