If there are still a few people on your list who need a gift, it is time to resort to my personal favorite gift: create a handwritten note for an event or product to be redeemed next year. It is kind of like a gift certificate without the hassle of buying one.
But actually, the best gift we can give can’t be bought in a store. One of the best gifts we can give is showing compassion for others. It is taking the time to listen to one another; it is trying to understand each other; it is simply caring about someone other than ourself.
Before I was writing this, I was lamenting that my oldest daughter will not be spending Christmas this year. She is only four hours away and could make the trip home. But it wasn’t until she explained why that I realized we need to think about others and think about the big picture.
On a regular basis, she volunteers with low-income residents facing eviction…the very people who cannot afford to get sick and miss work. She doesn’t want to risk getting herself sick, nor infecting them. It was a tough choice to be away from her family over the holidays, but it is what she feels is best.
If there is one thing we have learned over this past year, it is that there is no perfect answer. Instead, we need to take the time to listen and be willing to open ourselves up to the idea that we don’t know everything, that we may be wrong, that we may need to change our minds.
And be willing to acknowledge that it is impossible to know everything that is going on in someone else’s life.
More than once this year, I have found myself frustrated with someone, only to find out later that I didn’t have the whole picture.
A friend hadn’t returned the text because they were short-staffed at work as yet another employee was on quarantine. Another friend was terse on a phone call, only to find out later they had gotten into a heated disagreement with their brother-in-law earlier in the day.
And until my daughter explained who she was volunteering with, I didn’t understand why she would choose being home alone in her apartment rather than spending the holidays with her family.
And while will miss her over the holidays, it’s actually not the first time she has been absent Christmas morning. She missed Christmas as well as her grandfathers’ funerals because she was in Germany her junior year of high school. So if we can be apart for 11 months and miss some major milestones, we can do it again if it benefits others.
After all, this is what is great about the holidays. People just seem to be more generous this time of year but it is something we could parlay throughout the year.
Maybe it is delivering a meal to your neighbor who doesn’t like venturing out. Maybe it is creating a gift bags to hand out to those who are down on their luck. Or maybe it is a simple as just listening…listening to someone you don’t agree with, listening to someone who tells the same story over and over, or listening to to your friend who has had everything go wrong this year and is hoping 2021 will be just a little bit better.
At the end of the day, if just tried to understand each other better, walk a mile in someone else’s shoes and showed a bit more compassion toward each other, we could make a our world just a little bit better. We can make our community an even better place to call home.
On behalf of the entire McCook Community Foundation Fund’s Advisory Committee, we wish everyone a Merry Christmas and a safe and happy holiday season.
Ronda Graff is considering giving her kids the same handmade certificates as last year: pedicure and massage…with her tagging along.
Jeremy Shaw named April 2025 McCook Volunteer of the Month
While the Bison Alumni Newsletter will still be available digitally, a new printed service is available.
During a recent performance at the Fox Theater by the Lied's Arts Across Nebraska, there was one group who was not thanked: those who showed up for the event, which is a big deal.
Mark Friehe named March McCook Volunteer of the Month.
Although the Bodensteiners no longer live in Southwest Nebraska, they are still connected and wanted to see if prosper and thrive.
From long-term projects to weekly events, you cannot say "there is nothing to do" or "nothing is happening."
With the goal of reaching 200 subscriptions, the Bison Alumni Newsletter is launching a subscription service.
Long-time volunteer Don Harpst was recognized as the first McCook Volunteer of the Month in March 2025.
McCook's youth survey shows that young people now value safety in their community, something McCook provides.
Building Connections in McCook Matters June in McCook will be abuzz with fun events including a Youth Summit, hosted by McCook Community Foundation Fund. Our young people in Youth Change Reaction will host the first Nebraska Community Foundation gathering for youth, which will bring youth from across Nebraska to McCook. While still in the planning stages, our students identified that McCook is great because of connections . Our young people easily recognize how critical this factor is to people attraction, to people retention, and to improve their futures. What I miss most about my high school classroom is connections with students and colleagues. In education, I taught first, second, and sometimes third generations in families. My husband, Greg, and I are not McCook natives, but I eventually knew who was related to whom and usually where the parent(s) were employed. Going to the grocery store meant greetings from students and sometimes their family members. I officially retired from my high school classroom nine years ago in May. When you retire, the most-asked question becomes “What do you do with your time?” I try to maintain those connections and make new ones by belonging. For the past seven years, Sharon Bohling and I have volunteered to help plan and organize Bison Days for our high school students, which took place February 10 and 11. It would not happen without the financial support of McCook Community Foundation Fund, plus the McCook High School, local businesses, and the talented people of Southwest Nebraska who say “yes” when one of us reaches out to ask for the donation of time and talent. I would venture that they allow us to be on the Bison Days’ committee because we both have connections within our community—it’s certainly not our computer savvy. Connections can also solve a problem. Recently, I signed up to help a local family in crisis. My morning plan revolved around delivering my donation at a designated drop-off place. That didn’t work out. Fortunately, I still work with youth in various capacities, so I know that Keri Wilkinson works for Camy Bradley. Keri was an organizer for the family fundraiser, so I walked in Camy’s office hoping to find Keri. She was not there, so Camy and I visited briefly. She knew someone (who I did not know) who could possibly give me further direction. Only in a town with connections are you able to interrupt someone’s business, have her reach out for you using her connections , and offer to keep the donations for me until Keri’s return. Another great example of connecting can be found over coffee. Dee Friehe and I are longtime teacher friends. During a chance meeting at the grocery store a few weeks ago, she shared how she was there following a funeral service and was gathering supplies to deliver supper to the grieving family that night. She also updated me on her group of adults who meet for coffee on Thursdays at Ember’s, which varies from 8-28 depending on the day. She recognized the need for adults moving to McCook or folks just wanting to get out to make connections . Dee’s husband, Mark, also hosts his own group of men who are new(er) to McCook. She regaled me with stories of their Christmas party and other special gatherings. Wanting to call McCook your home is solidified by building connections . Ronda Graff has written about McCook Connects which matches a McCook person with someone new to the community of similar interests. I earned my McCook Connects’ T-shirt welcoming a young family with children. We have since spent many hot summer days sitting on bleachers together cheering on our 4-H horse kids while they show their horses. Warning: I connected them with a “free” new-to-them horse. Be careful connecting with me or you’ll probably own a horse. You do not have to be retired to connect in this community. Volunteering is a surefire way to meet people. McCook has many civic groups looking for new faces. Attend a church here; we have many welcoming congregations. Go to ball games or school concerts, attend concerts in the park, learn a new skill through the college, show up at a Third Thursday event or invite the neighbors for a BBQ. Take your youngsters to story hour or Move and Groove at the library. Go watch an event at the Kiplinger Arena. You can even take it a step further: Make a friend or call a friend and invite him/her to go with you. It is human connection that keeps us healthy and happy. If McCook Community Foundation Fund can help you connect in some meaningful way, please reach out for advice or support. *** While Pam Wolford may be retired, she is just as busy serving on the McCook Community Foundation Fund committee and started a new Learn and Return Scholarship with MCFF, while stepping up to grandparent whenever the call comes in.
